Are you being bullied? Find out what to do...
People bully others for all sorts of reasons…there might be something about you that's different to the bully (not that this should matter)…whatever the reason, if you are bullied just remember it's not your fault….nobody deserves to be bullied.
What is bullying?
Bullying is where someone hurts or frightens you on purpose and it is something that happens more than once.
Bullying is not a disagreement or when two people fall out over something. Remember 'STOP.' It is usually 'Several Times On Purpose'.
Bullying can be:
Physical – when someone hits, kicks, pushes you, when you have money or other possessions taken.
Verbal - when someone teases you, calls you unkind names or threatens you.
Emotional – you can be left out of groups of friends, have rumours spread about you, feel intimidated.
Cyber – hurtful text messages, emails, messages on social networking sites such as 'Facebook' and using other technology & online gaming
What should you do?
If you are being bullied or know that someone else is being bullied then 'tell someone'.
Think about the people you would tell…maybe a carer, staff member at school, social worker or friend or anyone else you trust to help.
Remember 'STOP' - Start Telling Other People
You can also:
- Try not to look upset or angry – bullies are less likely to keep picking on you if you don't show you are bothered.
- Try to say 'no/ STOP' really firmly & walk away
- Try not to fight back – you might get hurt or get yourself into trouble.
- Try not to be on your own in places where you are regularly picked on
- Try to think of some responses/ replies to the bully and practice these
- Try to keep a record of what has been happening….who, what, where and when.
A leaflet called 'Who Cares about Bullying' has been produced with the input of a group of young people in care from Leicestershire, Leicester and Rutland. It explains a little bit about what bullying is, what you can do and who may be able to help you:
This is when technology is used to bully by sending hurtful, upsetting, embarrassing or threatening messages, pictures or viruses. For example, this can include the use of mobile phones, chat rooms, social networking sites, online gaming, instant messenger & email.
What can you do if you are being cyber-bullied?
Do not reply to emails or text messages
Save the evidence
Talk to someone you trust and ask for help
Block the bully and check your privacy settings
Protect your password
Think before you send – don't join in forwarding unkind messages.
Where to go for help
Childline 0800 1111
A help line for children - calls are free and confidential
CyberMentors is all about young people helping and supporting each other online.
Leicestershire Anti-Bullying Strategy Team website.